my girlfriend of 1 year broke up with me today

[quote name='Glacius0' post='1683494' date='Jan 4 2009, 09:44 AM']Wow.. some horribly bad advice. You guys all sound like you're single [/quote]

lol so true. I know it really sucks to have someone break up with you, especially a long term relationship like that but sometimes it is for the best. It just wasn't meant to be. No sense trying to get revenge or trying to win her back. Maybe a fresh start for her could mean a fresh start for you too. Take it from a girl, usually a "I just want a fresh start" means there were other issues but she doesn't want to get into a fight or hurt your feelings. Don't dwell on it and try your best to move on. Plenty of fish in the sea!

You'll get over it. Just go hang out with your mates, realise what you were missing when you were with her. When i broke up with my gf, i ended up hanging out with my mates alot more n had alot of fun and just had a few flings inbetween just to make up for the lack of sex.

Maybe this advice might help. I've dealt with tons of females in my life and I know how it feels.

So I am thinking you didn't satisfy her in some sort of way, either emotionally or physically. You have to identify the problem, ask her if you have to. As others have said, girls liked to be chased, and also they love games(not video games, mind games), testing guys and drama. Some girls have their hearts broken multiple times and eventually they start doing this to weed out the losers. So this might be a test to see if you really truly cared for her. You have to do a little pursuing especially since its been a year long relationship. You have to show her you really care and find out what happened.

If at that point things don't become clear or change, then you can move on, but right now I say you have to give it a few more tries. Some girls are turned off when the guy just takes a no and walks away. They can see that he never really gave a fuck about her if he isn't confident enough to try show her why he wants her.

If she did meet someone else and is choosing him over you, well that could have been BECAUSE you obviously didn't satisfy her in some way.

There has to be more to it... a year long relationship is pretty long...

I swear some people just don't know when they've got a good thing

You are still young my friend, there are plenty of tarts ladies out there and there are better ones too. You're a good guy, a real catch, hell even I would go gay for you!

Any girl that does something like that isn't worth pursuing. Move on and find somebody else more grown up.

i am moved and touched at the amount of responses, i never knew you random people loved me so much!

this is the second year in a row, december/january time that i have had a girl tell me she wants to be my best friend. i am a complete best friend magnet, and i don't get it.

i'm taking it pretty hard but hey-ho... life goes on, as shit as it is.

That sucks man!

Major bummer, but as Harvey Dent said, "The night is dark just as the dawn is bright" or something... Chin up

[quote name='Costello' post='1684674' date='Jan 4 2009, 09:21 PM']I don't know how much you're affected by this but I sincerely feel for you mate.
Girl issues is what gets to me most. I get so emotional over these things, this stuff hurts.[/quote]

sorry, missed your quote Costello, yeah it hurts so fucking much - girl stuff really gets to me.

That's alright. There is plenty of fishes out there that await for you. It can be hurt but she is not the right person for you anyway. She is not worth. The girls/women are very weird.

I guess it's time for you to try dating guys :3

Just kidding. You'll find someone.

ShadowXP: I feel for you--girls are crummy like that, and can be incredibly spontaneous when they've decided that they're not into someone, especially when they're younger.

This really is a good opportunity to hang out with your friends, and indulge your passions outside of a relationship. It hurts now, but as time passes it hurts less and better things come your way. It sounds silly now, but it really is true. You get to know yourself a little better, and get a little more attuned as to what kind of a girl you're really looking for.

Nothing anyone can say will take care of the hurt, but I do recommend you fill your time up with things that you enjoy to take your mind away from it.


Sidebar: To all those suggesting rape, stop it. Stop it right now. I've moderated all those posts and removed the sigs of everyone who thought it clever to put it in their sig. That's disgusting, no-one wants to see garbage like that here.

Man, some people...

Not that I have much more to say. Breaking up with someone just for a "fresh start" is a pretty shoddy method of thinking. And that immediately proves that your relationship couldn't have lasted--after one year, she found your relationship stagnant and old. At the very least, you benefit here because a continued relationship with her may not've been that great if she feels this way.

And hey, you can always joke with your potential future girlfriend about New Year's being rather bad for you. =P

heh best friend magnet sounds like me i have a hard time getting into a relationship they always want me to be their best friend. to friendly i guess. but that sucks for ya man as they say plenty more fish in the sea

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I actually went through a time like this, but then I pulled out some Marvin Gaye and I knew that it would be alright, I just needed some sexual healing.





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That song always helps

Hope you get through this, sometimes girls can be really cryptic and odd. Best thing is to never look back and know things are only gonna get better. Hope you find the right one, maybe then she'll realise what she's missing .

Songs that help me or make me laugh:
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and some others but, there's more than one awesome fish in the sea. give time, either she'll come back, or she won't which sucks but now you can go fishing!

Heh, years back i had an 8-month relationship end via voicemail. I was at work w/ no cell service, stepped out for a smoke, got two new messages:

"Hey, i promised i'd never call you an asshole again, but you're an asshole. I'm breaking up with you." *click*
*delete*

--Next Message--
"Oh, and when can i get my computer back from your place?" *click*
wtf?!
*delete*

Yea. That took me a bit to get over, but i had an amazing followup to that... a few days later when she showed up at my job, got down on her knees and said "Please let me talk to you again." And i said, "I told you, i don't want to talk to you any more. Please leave." She got up, walked out, and it was the biggest ego boost i've ever had.

There's more to the story (as to why i had her computer, among other things) but that's no matter )

Oh, and she had called me at work telling me that she was at the bar with her ex. Twice. About 15 minutes apart. Then i step out and get the messages.

Ahh, fun times. Now i've been married for over a year to an amazing chick. Win.

[quote name='WildWon' post='1686670' date='Jan 5 2009, 01:55 PM']--Next Message--
"Oh, and when can i get my computer back from your place?" *click*
wtf?!
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You didn't keep her computer?! Hostage that thing, man! >P

I've actually been broken up with over Yahoo! Messenger. The kicker? Offline messages was how. XD It was a rather short relationship though, so I didn't really care.

Then she threatened to kill herself because of the guilt on her side. ....yeah.

So, I'm still single. *pose*

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So, Shadow, any news? Did you hear from her again?