Does age or time matter?

I do prefer a guy who is older than me myself as well I like to get to know guy before I get too deep into anything.

Yes and no. Age can matter because too old or too young and you loose frames of reference and things in common (music, TV, films etc.). Having said that if they are truly The One then those are hurdles that can be easily overcome.

It depends on which age. 13 and 20 is way to much while 23 and 30 is no problem at all.

The only reason I never asked Sian out is because I was 16 and she was 13. Which regretably leads to a lot of dodgy looks and a lot more hassle than either of us needed. So I figured that I'd ask her out when the age difference wasn't quite so...creepy. Unfortunately that never happened as a few short months before I'd have been able to sort things out, I was forced to leave the county, and then she moved to the other side of the planet.

From that I've come to the conclusion that worrying about age gaps, society's image of you and basically anything other than your own heart is absolute BOLLOCKS.

Although I will say that a hot 18 year old girl dating a 54 year old guy is both creepy and annoying.

[quote name='Blaze163' post='3634490' date='May 9 2011, 09:20 AM']From that I've come to the conclusion that worrying about age gaps, society's image of you and basically anything other than your own heart is absolute BOLLOCKS.[/quote]
This i feel same way and i am 21 she is 27 and im turning 22 in august

If I would be older I could say "14 is enough for me". That's because I'm not 20, and say a lot of random things.
But for real, I think age doesn't actually matter, even though other people will think strange of you when you are 18, and the other is 66. As long as they are both OK with it, I won't complain.

Uhhh... I don´t really know. I used to think girls with more age tend to look for older guys, but today´s just matter of "compatibility" rather than age. However, when you´re older than her, she feels somehow more protected.

Ahh the mysteries of life.

[quote name='Coto' post='3634522' date='May 9 2011, 04:47 PM']Uhhh... I don´t really know. I used to think girls with more age tend to look for older guys, but today´s just matter of "compatibility" rather than age. However, when you´re older than her, she feels somehow more protected.

Ahh the mysteries of life.[/quote]
Girls often have an older "mental age", e.g., a 14 years old girl having a mental age of 16. According to some research of something... though it could explain why you see a lot of girls with older guys (the 2 or 3 year difference, anything above 10 is still unexplained I guess).

[quote name='Berthenk' post='3634535' date='May 9 2011, 05:00 PM'][quote name='Coto' post='3634522' date='May 9 2011, 04:47 PM']Uhhh... I don´t really know. I used to think girls with more age tend to look for older guys, but today´s just matter of "compatibility" rather than age. However, when you´re older than her, she feels somehow more protected.

Ahh the mysteries of life.[/quote]
Girls often have an older "mental age", e.g., a 14 years old girl having a mental age of 16. According to some research of something... though it could explain why you see a lot of girls with older guys (the 2 or 3 year difference, anything above 10 is still unexplained I guess).
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Probably just foolish girls. But they could also have a traumatic past, and try to escape. An older man could protect them in their eyes.

Your age/2+7.

Well there´s some research about marriages or young couples. It says one is instinctively always looking for the opposite gender (not a problem if the same gender, thus) with our own parent´s features. This could be either a good or bad aspect, but it´s latent there.

I havent been in that position yet to be sure about what to answer.

But I would think not. I have seen many people around me, people who were very close to me choosing the kinda guy/girl that I would think they would never chose(or I would never pick).
When you love someone, age is not really a factor at all.

Nah.
My girlfriend is 2 years younger than I am (which is kinda significant when you're 16). We were a couple 4 days after we met and now I'm a very happy panda with her.


Age or time may matter when finding someone to be with. But when it's "that one", I think it just happens.

Age and time does not matter (as long as it is legal)

I was actually discussing that with my friends 2 weeks ago, you shouldn't be with a 10-14 year old girl if you are 17+ cause all you will think about is coitus and people might take you for a paedophile since she is (under the holy eyes of the law) not ready for sex

but for some reason I wouldn't mind if that was a 10-14 year old boy with a 15+ girl, probably due to sexist issues

but then who gives a s*** about other people's opinion. its an OPINION, not a fact.

[quote name='emigre' post='3634569' date='May 9 2011, 04:32 PM']Your age/2+7.[/quote]


Seconded, lol.

and if you dont have the same religion?

i love a girl she is like an angel i can stop thinking of her she's so beautiful...
she is about 2 o3 years older than me and i dont think if he will love sometime ...
i love her alot she stole my heart ...

[quote name='plasma dragon007' post='3634671' date='May 9 2011, 07:05 PM'][quote name='emigre' post='3634569' date='May 9 2011, 04:32 PM']Your age/2+7.[/quote]


Seconded, lol.
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Thirded, doublelol.

No, but seriously: Yes age and time matters.
When you are young, age matters a lot as people previously said. 13 and 20 is not that okay, while 23 and 30 is more so.
and to keep it somewhat realistic I think that age/2 +7 formula is a good guideline.

time? Nah, fall in love on first sight, from both point of views... why wait?

My girlfriend is almost 6 years younger than me, and we have no problems with that at all. Sometimes she says: "Do you ever think about our age difference?" with a smile. And only then it strikes me, that she's so much younger than me. But she's so mature and we fit together like two pieces of a puzzle, so it never bothered me.

Now, we met while she was 17 and I was 22, now, I'm 23 and she's 18.. so for me it's on the limit of when age matters. if she'd been 15 and me 20... I don't know if I would be okay with the thought. (but knowing her now, I'd be hers if she was 10, I'd wait, she's worth it).

tl;dr: Age matters when young. When older, not so much. Time? nah!

Of course it matters.

and if you dont have the same religion?

i love a girl she is like an angel i can stop thinking of her she's so beautiful...
she is about 2 o3 years older than me and i dont think if he will love sometime ...
i love her alot she stole my heart ...

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lol this looks like a romantic movie script introduction

[quote name='rock7' post='3634689' date='May 9 2011, 01:20 PM']

and if you dont have the same religion?

i love a girl she is like an angel i can stop thinking of her she's so beautiful...
she is about 2 o3 years older than me and i dont think if he will love sometime ...
i love her alot she stole my heart ...

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lol this looks like a romantic movie script introduction
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With the grammar to match.