I got hopes? (maybe not?)

[Agjsdfd]

So yeah, its about my relationship.
Quick summary: I loved her, she loved me but had an EX who kept on coming back to her life and broke up with me, got back with him. Came back to me but lastly got back with him literally at the worst possible time bashing me emotionally to death. She said a lot of mean stuff and held every little shit against me.

Current state:
Her relationship with her boyfriend hasnt been stable for more than a month and she added me back on MSN. Just for normal talks. But what normal conversations can I have with her? NONE. She said she was mean and rude to me so I would move on and get over her. Just like my previous EX, also she believes that I am a great guy, "innocent" and a really good person. But she kindly explained my mistakes and I agreed with her. Conversations moving on, I asked her if she would ever think of us getting back together. Her response is, that we are still young and I am the kind of person that would want a completely "serious life relationship" and she isnt willing to think that far now. She has her own problems and doesnt want to think about it now.
So I was like OK, so my chances are not completely NIL? Her response "i dont know the future, but please dont force it".

I say "I cant force anything on you. You clearly know my limits".


So yeah, how should I go on in this situation? She is trying to delete her bf from everywhere, but seems like she added him back on MSN today though.
At least now she is not bashing me and saying "GOD FORBID IT! I WILL NEVER BE WITH YOU!"


I truly love her. I can see her points. I am not saying she is the best girl and did everything the right way.. but I just love her. Things that come from her are really not taken too badly by me no matter how hard I try.

So yeah, what should I do?

 

[jefffisher]

i think you could get her back sure it wouldn't be hard if she's the type of girl who goes back to people.

but seriously would you want to? hell fucking no!
ditch that girl now and completely or you'll end up with her again and she'll be screwing with you for the rest of your life. forget about her you'll be unhappy for a while but eventually you'll find someone who actually makes and keeps you truly happy.

 

[DeadLocked]

You broke up once you'll do it again. She broke up with you then immediately got back to her ex. She needs to grow up quick, waiting for her though will only break your heart. Even if you do get back together it can only end badly, sorry.

 

[Agjsdfd]

I see.
Well, I have been trying to get over this since October(or even before if you read my other blogs).. but it did not work till now.

I have been following everyones advice, doing things I like to do for fun, hanging out with friends. but.. to be honest nothing interests me too much.
I am not willing to keep normal "friendship" with her, and I pretty much indicated that to her.. I dont understand what is really going on in her mind now.
Perhaps she is waiting for the right time? Or just feels bad for me?
As I said, Girls tend to think too good of me lol.

I try to avoid this matter as hard as I can, but how much more can I possibly take when it comes to emotionally crushing me?
One last chance after things really has been cleared mutually between us is all I am hoping, but of course I take everything you guys say in account.

I wont be approaching on that matter by myself.

 

[Issac]

Well, You say you love her.. I've been there. She fucked with your head though.
I'd say forget about her... or if you want to be an ass and risk getting a rumor spread about you, take her back by any means necessary just to dump her HARD. and for good.

She's not worth it, not if she has acted like you say.

 

[Agjsdfd]

Well, You say you love her.. I've been there. She fucked with your head though.
I'd say forget about her... or if you want to be an ass and risk getting a rumor spread about you, take her back by any means necessary just to dump her HARD. and for good.

She's not worth it, not if she has acted like you say.

I can understand what you are saying.
Lets just hope things run in my favour

. Or run the right way at least...

 

[Issac]

Yeah, But I'm very honest when I say you can do better.
I was blindly in love with a girl, she dumped me after 5 years relationship. I was devastated and she took me back. That was what I prayed to the gods for, what I wished with all my wishing power. But I wasn't happy.
She left me once, and the feeling was there in the back of my head "will she leave me again?"... I was never as happy as I wanted to be, i was unsure of everything, I took every comment the wrong way... she broke up with me after the summer, again, and right away fu'd with another dude...
Now I hate her completely... I mean, it's not the same... You think it's special for you, because you two are special... no, you're not... and I mean this in a friendly way.

She's immature, and you need to let her go for YOUR own good.

of course, it would be good for you to experience it yourself, but I'd want to spare you the pain.

 

[Agjsdfd]

Hahaha, "because you two are special" LOL.
Well, I will be honest. There were things we went through that made me think we are the most unique couple.. pretty intense and crazy situation.
BUT, I live in reality. I would rather face the truth than living in a positive imaginary world.

Thats one of the things she held against me.. "being TOO NEGATIVE". I wasnt being negative about everything.. was just generalising the situation we were in and how the REAL outcome would have been. Oh well.

Also, "time to heal". I am no different than any other human being. Yes, I am stuck to her for quite a long time now but time heals everything. (hopefully).

 

[Issac]

well, if you are going back together, Let's hope time will heal all wounds.

Personally I know of, and got, a few wounds that no time on earth will heal. But it's just personal stuff, so i'm hoping for the best for you!