Girlfriend attracted to friend...

[swimmeringer]

So my girlfriend revealed to me that she is attracted to my friend. My friend and I used to be tight and hang out all the time, but recently we've been putting a little more distance between each other. We are, however, still friends. Just not as close.

So my girlfriend is attracted to him. He is "funny, smart, and nice." I was a little uncomfortable when she told me and I don't really know how to handle this. I don't want to freak out on her but I don't think I can say, "Oh, that's nice." She says she likes me more and I know she does... But It's still so weird to me.

I'm confused and I feel weird... She had a dream they kissed and she liked it...


What should I do to handle this?





Thanks in advance.

(Please be serious. No "OMG dump her")

 

[ilovengage]

Talk to her about that. Tell her that you got a weird feeling about this.

 

[p1ngpong]

If all she said is that hes "funny, smart, and nice." I wouldnt worry that much about it to be honest, it doesnt mean she is in love with him or anything.

And she cant control her dreams, a dreams a dream, everyone has random ones that are weird. It doesnt mean your going to go out and act on them.

Did she say anything else about him? Anything more concrete? Like she has feelings for him or anything?

Maybe you should count yourself lucky, that shes at least being a little honest about her dreams and stuff. Its better then her going behind your back.

And if your friend is a good friend, he wouldnt do anything with her anyway.

You should talk to her about it, tell her that what she said worried you a bit. But do it in a calm way.

Best advice I can give you really.

 

[Toni Plutonij]

Shit....This is really fucked up, I wouldn't say that you should dump her, but I see no other solution, then you keeping those two apart..
Your girlfriend should never, ever see your friend again! This is really hard situation..

 

[swimmeringer]

She told me if we weren't dating, she'd probably date him.

My friend is not a good guy, he would probably do something like this...

She tried not to tell me but she was complaining about some mystery thing all day and I asked her what it was and she told me after awhile.

 

[p1ngpong]

She told me if we weren't dating, she'd probably date him.

My friend is not a good guy, he would probably do something like this...

She tried not to tell me but she was complaining about some mystery thing all day and I asked her what it was and she told me after awhile.

Hmmm that changes things then.

Talk to her about it then, like I said before. But dont go nuts.

Your "friend" doesnt sound like much of a friend now you said that either. If I thought someone who was supposed to be a friend was capable of doing that to me, I wouldnt associate with him at all to be honest.

:/

 

[Canonbeat234]

Don't be a pussy about it; you should tell your girlfriend when she first chose you it wasn't out of pity! She chosen you because she loves you, is she going to get all 'dreamy' about your friend. You have to make a 'lie' about him so she realize how much of a better person you are. That way she can't have it more than both ways!

 

[The Teej]

Well, at least she's keeping the lines of communication open about the whole thing. I'd personally just tell her how you feel about the whole thing.

Anyway, with dreams, if you're kissing someone or whatever, it doesn't always mean that you actually want that to happen with that person, or she wants that to happen with anybody at all. She's probably just as confused about the whole thing, and it's the subconscious trying to make sense of it all.

Does your friend know about this?

 

[NeSchn]

At least she is telling you about which is a good, but if she really has too much strong of feelings for that kid then its not going to be a healthy relationship. You will probably need to part ways if she feels that strong because shit will just start to go down the toilet, its better just to break it off now and stay as friends then to have a whole fiasco and break up then never talk to one another again.

 

[Anakir]

She's going through some kind of infatuation. I know what you're talking about. When I was going out with my ex, I had a dream about another friend of mine that I used to like before I even went out with my ex. After that dream, I had an infatuation towards my friend, but it eventually dies off.

It also depends on the type your girl is. Is she outgoing, wild, etc? She's honest, that's a good thing, but what about the other stuff. Those should be indication of whether or not she'd be doing something behind your back.

I went through these situations a few times; as the victim (as in the girl started liking me) and as the "cheater" (where I had an infatuation towards another person). It feels good for that amount of time, then it wears off and you start missing what you had before. Everything eventually becomes normal again.. unless you turn it into a drama by asking so many questions.

 

[science]

How old are you two? Let me guess... 15? 15 year old girls are dumb, and this is one of the things they do often: confuse boys. I don't know why she would tell you she liked the dream of kissing your friend, or even telling you about the dream at all. She is playing games with you, tell her to smarten up!

 

[Alexrose]

She told me if we weren't dating, she'd probably date him.

My friend is not a good guy, he would probably do something like this...

She tried not to tell me but she was complaining about some mystery thing all day and I asked her what it was and she told me after awhile.

She's not a very good girlfriend is she? She told you she fancies your best friend, she has dreams about him and she'd date him.

Funny thing is, if you DO dump her she'll just go fuck your friend.

You kinda got owned there.

 

[geedub]

whats her friends like ? lol

id cut my losses now

 

[spotanjo3]

Leave her. That's simple. You are stupid to keep her if she attracted to friend. She is not true lover anyway. Leave her if you are smart enough. Jeez.

 

[MicShadow]

Personally, id ask this 'friend' and talk about it with him. If things arent looking good (or a little too convienient) id talk to your girl about it
maybe bring back the spark somehow?

But if its still going sour, cut your losses. It sounds kinda dire to me

 

[Wabsta]

How old are you two? Let me guess... 15? 15 year old girls are dumb, and this is one of the things they do often: confuse boys. I don't know why she would tell you she liked the dream of kissing your friend, or even telling you about the dream at all. She is playing games with you, tell her to smarten up!

qft.
However, I DO know why she told you about that dream and stuff.
To make you jealous.
Because that's what girls do.
Make you jealous and confuse you.

Whatever you do, don't dump her. Because she WILL end up with this friend if you dump her.
And that's not something you want, that's like losing 2 good friends!

Just tell her how you feel about this, and you could try to say something as "What would you do if I was the one who told you all this?"..

Goodluck.

 

[Alexrose]

Just make sure your friend is familiar with the bro code, THEN dump her.

 

[LivingToDie]

step 1. maybe she is saying those things to make you jealous ? so she would get more attention ???

step 2. talk to her !

step 3. if it keeps going like this make her choose between you or your ''friend'' (do not say it in a threatening way)

 

[notnarb]

Fight your friend. Its the only way to prove that you are better than him.